Are Beijing girls gold diggers? Well, a recent survey conducted by The Committee of Match-making Service Industries of China Association of Social Workers just reminded us that there must be some truth in that stereotype, and that it might also apply to the rest of China.
According to the 2011 Chinese dating and wedding survey released on Jan. 4 (download the original report here), up to 92% of women chose “stable income” as an essential condition for marriage. Among the 50,384 interviewees, 70% of the women proclaimed that men shouldn’t get married until they own an apartment.
The most interesting discovery is that close to 80 percent of the single women surveyed think that only men who make over RMB4,000 per month deserve to have a girlfriend. While 27.1 percent think that only men who make over RMB10,000 per month are suitable. According to the 2011 Chinese graduates’ income report, the average salary of a new graduate in China is RMB2,815. Does it mean they don’t deserve a girlfriend?
Most male Weibo users “feel great pressure” after reading the report. One Weibo user “John” wrote: “RMB devaluation or Chinese men devaluation?” While some Weibo users think this survey ridiculous, many users think that behind the seemingly cruel survey lies the reality. Another Weibo user “shuifang” wrote, “in big cities like Shanghai, it’s really hard to survive on RMB4,000 per month, not to mention to go on dates.” Yu Xia, a TV commentator wrote: “Dating is expensive, RMB4000 is not even enough to buy an iPhone for a girlfriend.” Chen Sijin, a financial expert wrote humorously: “I suppose 60% of singles make less than RMB 4,000 in China, if 80% of women don’t want to date them, that means the Chinese population will drop soon without having to rely on birth control any more.” Check the link here
But there is a sign of change, 57 percent of women, compared to 71 percent in 2010, think that finding a good husband is more important compared to finding a good job. And up to 70 percent people who had a "naked wedding", think they are in a happy marriage. “Although good income and apartment ownership are still considered important elements, the survey shows a lower dependence on economy in terms of marriage.” Tian Fanjiang, an official in the China’s marriage association pointed out.
The survey also saw a different trend in dating, 30 percent of the interviewee said that they didn’t care who pays for dinner during a date, most women accept splitting the cost while only 26.1 percent insists that men should pay for everything. Among the post ‘90s generation, kids are dating at a younger age. Over 24.7 percent of students in junior high school have started to date compared to 3.6% among people who were born before '70s at the same age period.